How We Pray

There is an ancient quote, and I will spare you the Latin, that indicates how we pray actually shapes what we believe. Initially, we might be somewhat resistant to this idea, but it is hard to deny that forms become deeply planted. The use of language, terms and overall structure shape our theology in incredibly profound ways. If doubt remains, consider the differences between the Eucharistic prayers from the various rites in the Book of Common Prayer. They represent different approaches to the same content; the different approaches leave us thinking and feeling differently as well.

As we consider the importance of how we pray, we might consider the collects of the Church and the shape they share. Most collects tend to have three movements: the opening address, the petition and the concluding doxology. Each movement is significant.

The opening address cites the person to whom the prayer is directed. It also does a bit more. The opening address, often, lists attributes or features of the person being addressed. When we refer to God as, “most holy, eternal or heavenly Father,” we are making theological points that inform our thoughts, feelings and hopes.

The petition is the substance of our request. It is what we are asking of God at a particular time. Specificity is important, not because God doesn’t know what we desire, but because prayer is also about conforming our will to the will of God. When we make a specific request, we are entering into an agreement to wrestle with God about the righteous quality of the request. Often in prayer, I discover my will needs to be redirected.

Finally, we close in praise of the Trinity or an individual member of the Trinity. This piece is more important than it might appear. Closing our prayers in the name of the Father, Son and Holy Spirit places our prayers within the life of the Church, past, present and future. It provides context for us and our prayers. The concluding doxology places us within that larger context of the Church and coming kingdom.

When you next pray alone or aloud, consider the components of the traditional collect. It is a formula that gives structure to our thoughts and beliefs. Hopefully, consideration could also reduce anxiety about praying aloud in groups.